Brothers and Sisters in Adoption: Helping Children Navigate Relationships When New Kids Join the Family.
Attachment and Bonding Center of Ohio.
P. O. Box 90318
Indianapolis, IN 46290
Tel: (317) 872-3055
This book provides information and strategies for integrating traumatized children into families whose composition already includes typically developing children. It explores challenges siblings face from pre-adoption through post-adoption and into adulthood. Chapter 1 provides an overview of initial expectations of parents and children as they enter the adoption process and discusses realistic expectations. Chapter 2 emphasizes the importance of pre-adoption preparation and reviews possible traumas the child has faced, including abandonment, sexual abuse, physical abuse, domestic violence, pre-natal exposure to drugs and alcohol, neglect, separation from siblings, and multiple moves. The impact of trauma on the adoptive family is explored. Chapters 3 and 4 highlight strengths of successful adoptive parenting, identifying strengths though a home study interview, and the unique contributions that fathers make in adoptive families. Chapter 5 provides suggestions for interpreting a child's history so families can make informed decisions about adoption. The Prediction Path is presented as a way to identify the potential needs of a child who has experienced trauma prior to the adoption and types of services the adoptive families may expect to utilize. The involvement of siblings-to-be in the decision-making phase of the adoption process is also covered. Following chapters look at the actual transition of the child into the family and strategies for sensitively moving children domestically and internationally, reasons that cause adoption disruptions and issues experienced by typically developing children during and in the aftermath of an adoptee leaving the family, and the post-placement impact of adopting a traumatized child. Chapters 9 and 10 focus on moving from family immobilization to mobilization and present strategies for developing realistic expectations, acquiring new and effective coping skills, coping with grief, and creating support. The final chapter discusses issues surrounding the transition to adulthood in families that have adopted traumatized children. Case examples are provided throughout the book. Numerous references.
adoption; adopted children; adoption process; siblings; abused children; adoptive families