Saying Goodbye to a Baby. Volume 1: The Birthparent's Guide to Loss and Grief in Adoption, Revised.
Children's Hospital, Vancouver, B.C. (Canada).
xii, 111 p.
Publication Information: Volume 1. Child Welfare League of America, Inc., Washington, DC
Child Welfare League of America (CWLA)
727 15th Street, NW 12th Floor
Washington, DC 20005
Written by a birthmother who placed her infant for adoption, this book is designed for pregnant women who are considering placing their child for adoption. The text discusses feelings of loss birthparents experience, reasons loss through adoption has not been acknowledged or sanctioned by society, and major shifts that have taken place in adoption over the last 20 years. Following an introduction, Chapter 1 explores the adoption decision, open and closed adoptions, and routes to adoption. Additional chapters describe the impact of pregnancy and the birth experience, loss and grief birthmothers may experience, adjustment after leaving the hospital, and looking back on the adoption process. Chapter 6 discusses living with the decision to relinquish a child, and Chapter 7 considers issues for others in the adoption triangle. The final chapter focuses on adoption reunion, the journey for birthparents and the power of secrecy, beginning contact, feelings that may surface surrounding the reunion, the honeymoon period, feelings about names, the role of the adoptive family, genetic sexual attraction, coping with abuse, mental health, and substance abuse issues, rejection and death, and kinship relationships. The book closes with a transcript of an interview with a birth moth about an adoption reunion.
grief; adoption; birth mothers; birth fathers; adoptive parents; REUNIONS; GENETIC SEXUAL ATTRACTION; VOLUNTARY RELINQUISHMENT