Lessons From a Birth Mother: The Importance of Post-Adoption Support.
National Council for Adoption.
, No. 113 National Council for Adoption
225 N. Washington Street
Alexandria, VA 22314-2561
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This brief highlights the efforts of Lifetime Healing, LLC, a post-placement care network dedicated to educating adoption professionals on the importance of ensuring lifetime resources and support for women who made the decision to place their child for adoption. The organization works with adoption professionals to train them to better serve women who have made the very difficult decision to relinquish a child for adoption for as long as she needs adoption-related support and counsel. The personal story of a birth mother who relinquished her child to adoption is shared and lessons learned are discussed, including: the relinquishment decision affects everyone; it doesn’t end with a kiss goodbye and a handoff of the baby; birth mothers grieve for a lifetime; birth mothers don’t give themselves enough credit for making the hard decision to relinquish; many adoption professionals believe they are proving post-adoption services sufficiently but many are falling short; and anyone unwilling to educate themselves on the different perspectives and sides of adoption needs to get out of the game.
birth mothers; voluntary relinquishment; adopted children; grief; loss; Post adoption services; family relationships; coping skills; child welfare workers; child welfare services