Honestly Adoption: Answers to 101 Questions About Adoption & Foster Care.
Berry, Mike. Berry, Kristin.
Harvest House Publishers
Eugene, OR 97402
Written by parents of 8 adopted children and 23 other children, this book answers questions about adoption and foster care for prospective parents. Part 1 on adoption conversations discusses the decision to adopt or foster, preparation to be a foster parent, ways to help besides adopting or fostering, adoption disclosure, and responding to people’s praise about adoption. Part 2 focuses on adoption relationships and discusses the parent child relationship, loving children equally, keeping children from feeling neglected, preparing forever children before fostering, explaining fostering to forever children, how fostering will change forever children, open adoption, meeting the birth parents, maintaining connections with the birth family, conversations with schools about trauma, and identifying people who are not helpful. Part 3 discusses strategies for attachment parenting, finding the right therapist for a child who has been traumatized, teaching self-advocacy to children, and empowering a child to build healthy attachments. Trauma is addressed in Part 5 and answers are provided to questions that address talking about past trauma, talking to teachers about trauma, behavioral problems, animal abuse, sleep, child safety, tantrums, online pornography, and angry adolescents. Part 6 discusses the need for a safety play and key components, and Part 7 addresses the need for parents to engage in self-care. The final part of the book shares the perspectives of adoptees on relationships with biological families, how adoptive families can help new children feel welcome, and what adoptive parent should do when others talk about adoption inappropriately.
adopted children; foster children; child rearing; parenting skills; parent child relationships; adoption triads; open adoption; POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE